I watched Pretty Woman the other day, not the cleanest of movies for sure, but it reinforced in me something that I’ve been thinking about for a long time now. All women, no matter what they’ve done or where they are in their lives, long desperately to be told that they’re beautiful, loved and worth fighting for. Here’s a gal who makes no bones about the fact that she’s a prostitute – often taunting others with the fact - yet when her love interest treats her as one, she gets upset. What gives? The only reason she’d ever be upset with him for treating her as what she claims to be, is because she knows deep down that she’s made for more. We feel it instinctively as the movie goes on. She knows that she has value beyond what she does – otherwise she wouldn’t care how he treats her.
Somewhere along the line we’ve lost or forgotten that instinctive knowledge. I walk around the mall these days (and it’s not often I get to do so) and see women barely covering themselves, packing miles of makeup onto themselves and desperately trying to ‘fit in’ with their friends. Since when have we become so monumentally unhappy with ourselves? I imagine it’s since we’ve forgotten (or not been told to begin with) that we are beautiful within ourselves, just because we are ourselves.
So ladies I may be preaching to the choir but we’re going to do a little exercise. Repeat after me.
I am beautiful.
My heart and soul were made for beauty.
I’m not beautiful because of what I do or look like,
but because I am me.
I am me. I am beautiful. I am loved by God.
Did you say it? Did you mean it? Did you believe it? Keep saying it to yourself and let it soak in to you.
The moment you were conceived, you were given XX chromosomes – making you female. Do you know what that affected? Absolutely everything. Your hair is shiny. Your skin is soft. You have a certain set of hormones that go crazy at certain times and a certain physiology and a certain way of doing things. All of that is owing to the X’s that are buried deep within your cells (among a few other things). Some people say we’re the ‘weaker’ sex, but I prefer to think of it as the ‘softer’ sex. Just about everything about us ladies is soft, pleasant, classy and beautiful. At least, that’s what we were made to be. We can fight it if we want, or we can just go with it.
“But, but, but”…I hear you saying. “I’m too big or too tomboyish or too abrupt or not pleasant enough to be beautiful”.
Lies. You cannot do anything to change the fact that your body, heart and soul is filled with beauty. It can’t be altered. You can try and suppress it - that can be done. You can change your attitudes or your reactions and try to be that which you aren’t – that can also be done. But you won’t be happy and you can never change the fact that you are intrinsically beautiful. God scrolled through the kabillions of different people he could have created, and he chose you. He CHOSE you – exactly as you are. It doesn’t matter if you are tom-boyish, if your hair is straight or curly, or if your features resemble a horse (to which, at one point in my life, someone did compare me!) - your feminine heart and soul is incredibly beautiful – objectively speaking.
It is a garden full of flowers – and home not only to your heart, but to the Heart of the Divine Lover as well.
Not only are you objectively beautiful, but your beauty is unique to you. Nobody else has exactly what you have in the exact combination you have it. It’s something that needs to be shared with the world – not only for the worlds’ sake, but for the sake of our own happiness as well.
So go ahead and repeat those words to yourself again and again – as many times as it takes to let them become the very foundation you stand on. Beauty is at the core of every woman. Let’s never forget it.